A Better Us

Couple Therapy

Do you want to feel more closeness in your relationship? 

Do you feel like you can’t do anything right in your partner’s eyes? 

Do you feel unimportant or like you don’t matter much to your spouse? Does your partner’s career or family pet seem to get more attention than you?

You keep having the same tired fights without resolution. It’s a like a negative cycle that keeps spinning and going nowhere. Couples therapy is about identifying this negative cycle you do with each other, figuring out why this negative cycle exists and then learning how to do a different dance together. Communication is not the problem. Lack of connection is.

Your relationship is one of the most important parts of your life. You need a therapist specifically trained to work with couples. I can help.

In couples therapy we create a safe environment for dealing with difficult and sometimes painful emotions. It also becomes a place where partners learn to tune into each other’s emotional world. This experience creates relief and deepens connection.

When your partner actually understands what you are feeling inside, you have a sense of “feeling felt” by your partner, a sense that he or she gets you and has your back. This experience of “feeling felt” is essential if you want to feel close and connected to your partner. 

You need to know that when you are in distress, your partner will be there for you – open and responsive to your needs. When you feel your partner gets you and accepts you, then you begin to connect in a more satisfying way. 

I specialize in helping couples get to the heart of their issues and helping them have the conversations they need to have, to move them out of their stuck spots. My specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and extensive experience providing couples therapy and leading couple intensives makes me an ideal choice to help you regain hope and deepen the connection in your relationship.

I welcome the opportunity to get to know you and learn about your relationship.

Please connect with me by going to the contact page listed above.

Fee

Couple Session - $160 for 50 minutes

If any of the below behaviors are happening then couple therapy is not advised

• Couples where one partner for all intents and purposes is checked out of the relationship; or when one partner is going to therapy to tell their partner that the relationship is over.

• There is an ongoing affair.

• One or both partners have a substance or alcohol abuse or some other addiction problem that is active, (particularly where there is denial about that issue preventing us from integrating that in to the therapy process).

• Couples with active domestic violence, particularly where there are behaviors such as hitting, insulting, threatening physical harm and screaming and other dangerous and/or intimidating behaviors beyond the angry yelling that many couples experience in arguments.

• Couples who for whatever reason, cannot be together. For example, a couple who has not been able to engage in a civil discussion over a period of time, are not likely good candidates for couple therapy. Another example, if one or both partners experience a trauma reaction being with their partner for any extended times.

• These couples or similar situations may need a more traditional weekly individual session format or other interventions before couples therapy is appropriate.